Domination is earned not taken.

While talking with one of the readers. I have realized that some of what I say might stir some bad memories. I write about passion, intimacy, lust and also about rough sex, domination, rape role-plays and the whole spectrum.
Let me start by saying that I am sorry if any of my words stirred up any undesired feelings in any of you.
I write about everything I like and I do so without referring to any relationship or a person in particular. It’s just me sharing my desires.

I am saying that because that’s totally different from how it’s like when you are with someone. When you are with someone, you do what you both like and desire.. not just your desires. I don’t do all and everything you read on my blog with every woman I end up with.

Even when I talk about forcing something on a woman I am with or being forceful and rough, I usually make sure it’s clear that around that force is intimacy, passion and caring for the other person. Because that’s how it is for me, really. No matter how rough I am, I do it only if I know the person on the receiving end is enjoying it as well.
Inflicting or forcing something upon someone else who is not welcoming/enjoying it, just makes me sick in fact, not to mention a turn off.

So the only situation that I will be doing everything I am saying on my blog with one person, would be meeting a female duplicate of myself. Which will be actually damn boring. No challenges, nothing to explore and no limits to push.

No matter how dominating or rough I can be, I can’t think of anything sexier than a strong woman who willingly give herself to me. I don’t think using or abusing a woman, emotionally speaking, is something I ever did nor ever will.

Even though some might disagree with me, I think domination is all about trust, and it is earned not taken.


Explore your guy…

Explore your guy

Explore your guy


I was just reading a very nice post by vixenincognito about how to please a man and thought I would add my two cents. This, of course, is based on my personal preference, so I don’t need to repeat after every word that I am talking about what I like and what I think other men might like as well.

Let me start all of this by saying, “Don’t take anything for granted. Communication is what makes sex best”. So express how you feel about things in bed and be receptive to how your partner feels and likes, let go and don’t think much.”

While sucking his cock, make sure he doesn’t get too sensitive, one good sign to watch that, is feeling him first getting hard and then getting softer again. Unless he is falling asleep or watching a football match, that mostly would mean that you are giving too much attention to the head or letting your teeth get in the way a little and he is getting too sensitive. If you think he is getting too sensitive, switch to licks instead of sucking, avoid the head and get his cock wet with your saliva (or flavored lube, or your pussy ;) )

Handjobs, guys generally ( or at least myself ) like them more than many would think. Guys grow up and the first sensation they experience when it comes to sex, is their own hand pleasing their cocks. So jerking his cock off will almost always be sexy. Speak about fantasies while you are giving him a slow handjob, ask him his naughtiest fantasies and tell him your naughtiest fantasies. You can watch porn together too ( if you are into that )

When you are sucking him or giving him a handjob, don’t limit yourself! Sometimes women tend to think that men are easy to figure out, they have this thing pointing out all the time, so that must be where he wants me to touch him, right? Well, yes, but we have a whole body as well.

So tease my balls, caress them, lick them, suck them. Run your hands on my skin all over, tease my nipples too (yeah, those work for men too), lick them and suck them as well (yeah, that doesn’t make me feel any less masculine as many might think). Touch my ass, tease it with your finger (wet preferably), lick it, finger it (but make sure I want you to first. And no, that doesn’t make any guy more or less gay.)

I might write a follow up to this later, but I think that will do for now.

Ass worship

Ass worship

Ass worship

I was reading C.A. White‘s post “The Derriere” about the obsession with Women’s behinds and I wanted to add my two cents.

I guess the fact that we have it in our DNA is one factor at least. Wide hips is a healthy sign in a female as well and was considered an attraction among our early ancestors because it means “that’s a good bearer”. And being fertile was the sexiest thing back then where people were struggling to survive and reproduce.

Maybe I should try this line once.. “My god, you look so fertile!” I don’t think it will take me anywhere good though. lol.

Personally, I love women’s ass because:

  1. Curves are just sexy.
  2. Naughty girls should be spanked.
  3. It’s “wrong” or at least has been for a long time, culturally speaking. And I like to do “wrong” stuff. (don’t judge me.)
  4. It’s intimate. Anal sex usually requires some intimacy and trust. Personally, I don’t recall that I ever had anal sex on a first date.
  5. Rimming. I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but I think it’s a very intimate and naughty act at the same time. I love being both in the giving and receiving ends.

Now, Do you think men’s behinds are also a subject of obsession/adoration?

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