Domination is earned not taken.

While talking with one of the readers. I have realized that some of what I say might stir some bad memories. I write about passion, intimacy, lust and also about rough sex, domination, rape role-plays and the whole spectrum.
 
Let me start by saying that I am sorry if any of my words stirred up any undesired feelings in any of you.
 
I write about everything I like and I do so without referring to any relationship or a person in particular. It’s just me sharing my desires.

I am saying that because that’s totally different from how it’s like when you are with someone. When you are with someone, you do what you both like and desire.. not just your desires. I don’t do all and everything you read on my blog with every woman I end up with.

 
Even when I talk about forcing something on a woman I am with or being forceful and rough, I usually make sure it’s clear that around that force is intimacy, passion and caring for the other person. Because that’s how it is for me, really. No matter how rough I am, I do it only if I know the person on the receiving end is enjoying it as well.
 
Inflicting or forcing something upon someone else who is not welcoming/enjoying it, just makes me sick in fact, not to mention a turn off.

So the only situation that I will be doing everything I am saying on my blog with one person, would be meeting a female duplicate of myself. Which will be actually damn boring. No challenges, nothing to explore and no limits to push.

No matter how dominating or rough I can be, I can’t think of anything sexier than a strong woman who willingly give herself to me. I don’t think using or abusing a woman, emotionally speaking, is something I ever did nor ever will.

Even though some might disagree with me, I think domination is all about trust, and it is earned not taken.

 

Studs vs. Sluts

No Standards

"Normal" is a cruel invention

Everyday there is something that limits us. Sometimes it’s for “our own sake” and sometimes it’s not. The problem is that we are not the only people who judge that. But there are lots of other things; people, friends, society, governments, laws, doctors, soap operas, fashion lines… etc.

The fact is, Humans are complex.. There should be NO standards!

The word “normal” should be removed from our dictionaries, as it’s the root to all the discrimination  and social prisons out there.

Sometimes I wish all of us depended on the human in us and on our personal values to decide how our world can be without waiting for anything to be enforced on us.

Be fat, be gay, be queer, be slutty, be promiscuous, be a nun, be religious, be atheist, be slim, be naked… Be whatever you want for yourself to be, judge yourself and don’t let others impose their own norms on you. That’s the only way we can forget about the hate the society puts in us towards others just because they are “different”.

A guy who has different sexual experiences is called a “stud” indicating how manly he is and gives a good sense of the word all of the time. On the other hand, a woman who does exactly the same is called a “slut” indicating how demeaning to herself that she agreed to have multiple sexual partners and gives a bad sense of the word most of the time. These are double standards that our society puts in us all the time and we end up hating something we want just because we don’t want to be labelled in a bad and/or demeaning way.

Is there a masculine equivalent of a “slut” ? is there a feminine equivalent of a “stud”?

That’s one reason that I intend to run a blog which is very sexual, with virtually very little or no limits, and with uninhibited fantasies. Because I know these fantasies exist out there within LOTS of us, but we learnt to deny them because as human beings we do seek the approval of the society we belong to subconsciously and sometimes we even end up hating ourselves.

To me personally, the word “slut” means, “A woman who is willing to openly pursue her sexual desires without fear of judgement”

I would appreciate hearing what you all think about that?

Share your fantasies with me …

I want you to share with me as much fantasies as you feel like. I have very very few limits or boundaries. so I am pretty open to everything and like it when people are open about their fantasies with me. so share those deep desires that you don’t get out usually, those fantasies that turn you on but still usually hold them back because you are afraid of everyday judgement. I will share with you too :)

I will keep it private unless you mention that you want it published.

Don’t want to share it here?

Share by email: contactdolan@gmail.com

So what is it?

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